Do you like your own story?

Photo Credit: Alexandre Bertin

I just submitted my own personal story to Jeremy Stanton’s “Secretly Incredible You Contest”.

Jeremy encourages his readers to submit themselves, or someone else they feel is living an incredible story. At first it felt silly to submit myself as someone I think is secretly incredible.

Believing that my own story is incredible is a very important ingredient for my success. If I do not believe that my story is incredible, or that I can at least make it incredible, how do I fight off the frustration and potential depression that comes with hard times and failures?

Everyone has obstacles and challenges in their lives. These are all very individualized. I cannot find someone who has had a life so simple and so easy they have lived free of challenges.

I do have a great story. I am incredible. There is nothing wrong with believing this about myself. I also happen to believe that others can benefit from knowing my story.

I have been married for over 20 years. I ran a small business for 7 years. We have 4 amazing daughters God gave us after 7 years of infertility. I lost plenty during the financial collapse but it was just money and money does not last anyway. I am a full time nursing student at the age of 40. I did 54 episodes of the Blue Collar Business Podcast.

Never let the winds of misfortune keep you from seeking the shores of possibility. You are living a great story too. Don’t be afraid to believe it.

Journal: Spring 2012 Report Card

This last semester has been the tale of two classes. I maintained a high “B” in my Human Lifespan Development (HLD) class and had plenty opportunity to raise it to an “A”. I was dragging the bottom in my Anatomy and Physiology (A&P) class nursing a low “D”.

After raising my A&P grade to an even 70% following the third test I made a tough decision. I decided I would rather get two “B”s than an “A” and “C”. I turned 75% of my study time over to my A&P class and started doing the bare minimum in HLD. This was a risky situation. If I continued to struggle in A&P I would very likely fail. Failing A&P and then dropping my HLD grade a whole point is a less than desirable outcome. Still, I felt confident I could be successful.

I scored an “A” on my 4th A&P test and ratcheted up my study time for the 5th exam. I aced this one as well and finished the semester with 30 points more than I needed resulting in a “B”. My HLD class turned out as expected. The final was A LOT more difficult than any of the other tests, and since I spent all my time studying for A&P I received my worst grade of the year on the final with a 69%. I still held on to my “B” as planned.

It was tough to see an “A” slip away in the HLD class but I know I made the right decision. These science grades are very important for nursing school admissions.

So there it is, my second semester in the books. I can now brag about my 24 college credits. It feels great to be making this progress. Things are not moving fast enough for me but they rarely do. I will be able to apply to three different nursing programs next spring. These are just one year programs so I am on schedule to graduate and have an RN license in spring of 2014.

Gladness from choices

Photo Credit: Oli4.D

Back in April I started doing a Josh McDowell devotional with my two teen daughters. The one for April 19th has been my favorite so far.

The title of this devotional was called: More Gladness Than Anyone Else

The verse Josh used was the following.

Psalm 45:7
You love righteousness and hate wickedness; Therefore God, Your God, has anointed You with the oil of gladness more than Your companions.

If we love what God loves and hate what God hates we can put ourselves into a place where God can bring us gladness. God wants to be a part of our gladness, but He is unable to bless bad choices. I cannot step outside of His plans, and expect good things to happen.

We had a great discussion on this subject. I asked my daughters if they give God the opportunity to give them gladness by following His precepts. We discussed life choices they can make and if those choices are a part of what God loves or a part of what God hates.

Our prayers for each other that night were good ones.

“God, help us to learn to love what You love, so we can experience the kind of gladness that only You can give.”

Journal: Gibbons and Dibbens

Julie had one request for Mother’s day. She wanted to spend it with her family at the Kansas City Zoo.

After church we ran by the house, changed into more comfortable clothing and met grandma and grandpa Dibben at Taco Bell for lunch; we did not want to spend a lot of time eating when we had adventure in the plans!

It has been many years since I visited our Zoo. It really was a perfect day for the zoo and we were not the only ones who wanted to be there. It was great! There were happy kids and families all over the park. Since it was an overcast day the photos really did turn out great.

Our first stop had to be the tropics building. This is where the monkeys live and Elaina has always loved monkeys.

We could use some of their signage at our home. This should go on our front door!

Our family is very entertaining and we managed to keep the wild life entertained.

I love living in a people zoo

Jessica has been excited to see the Capybara’s. These are the worlds largest rodent and very similar to Guinea Pigs.

Shaped exactly like a guinea pig

We managed to find a great tree for taking photos. Here are a few that we managed to get.

This was our first weekend adventure of the summer and a prelude to our trip to the Omaha Zoo later this month. It felt so good to leave the worries behind and spend some time with my family.

They really are a beautiful bunch, don’t you agree?

Three things I learned from Blogging Off – A farewell post

Photo Credit: Keith Moyer

Today marks my 32ND and final “Let’s Blog Off” entry. The powers that be over at http://letsblogoff.com have decided it is time to close down this bi-weekly writing event.

I am extremely thankful for the time Gerard and Paul have put into this project. In honor of their work I would like to share the three lessons I have learned through my 32 contributions and how I will never be the same because of Let’s Blog Off.

Here are the three things I learned during this last 12 months including 6 of my favorite posts during that time. You can check out all of them from My Archives.

I am a creative
I never considered myself a creative writer; I have just thought it would be cool to attempt to be one. At first it was a little intimidating; the idea that I could find a way to actually write about a random subject with just three to four days notice.

It was on the 8TH subject, after I started, that I skipped my first and only post. I drew up a blank on the idea of what my favorite color could be. It never crossed my mind to run any direction with a topic that I wanted. After that one post I vowed to never skip another topic again. A few weeks ago I actually tried to skip one but Gerard stepped in and filled my mind with an idea and I ran with it.

Let’s Blog Off has taught me that I am a creative writer.

Thumbtacks
Baby Smelling for the Beginner
Pumpkin Pie For David

Readers like personal stories
The more I took a real life story and added it to the weekly blog off topic the higher my comment count would rise. Readers are desperate to connect in an authentic way with blog authors. The more personal the story, the higher the interaction.

Stories rock!

Stealing Time
It Seemed Like A Good Idea At The Time
My Daughters, My Wife and Me

Keep it between 300 and 500 words
It was not uncommon to have fairly high participation in these blog posts. On the weeks that I got a little too wordy, the comments suffered. Short and to the point writing increased reader participation. Hey we are all busy and running into a blog post that is 1,000 words can be intimidating.

Gerard and Paul:

From the bottom of my heart I thank you both for the time and effort you put into this project. Let’s Blog Off has taught me that I am creative. That sharing my personal life encourages others and that simple writing is the most powerful.

Journal: Adventure Legacy

A couple of weeks ago we had a memorial service for my wife’s grandmother, who passed a couple of months ago. The service was very simple. We met in Odessa, MO and followed the procession out to a cemetery outside of town.

We did something a little differently than anything I have been a part of before.

Julie’s grandparents were both cremated. Part of their wishes were to be buried together. Way back in the 50′s her grandfather built a special wood box that he requested they both be buried in.

It is the transportation of this box out to the cemetery that was of interest to me. One of the granddaughters requested the box, with both grandparents ashes in it, to be placed in the sidecar of this motorcycle.

One story that I have heard many times over from several different members of this family is how, at the age of 60+, Dale and Dorothy rode a motorcycle very much like this one from Missouri all the way up to Montana. At 60 years old they did this! I know a lot of sixty-year-old couples that have all but given up on life and yet these two were not about to quit enjoying life together.

Julie and I have talked about this A LOT. We have no desire to quit living life when we hit retirement age. We want to continue being adventurous. We want to continue being useful to our family, friends and community.

What a great example Dale and Dorothy have left for all the family members they left behind. You are never too old, to have an adventure.

Chasing Promises

Photo Credit: Keith Moyer

My all time favorite Old Testament character is Joseph. His story fascinates me. At the young age of 17 God promised Joseph that he would be a great leader. So great that even his own family would bow before him.

Plenty stood in the way of this promise. Joseph was beaten, thrown into an empty well, and sold into slavery by his own brothers. After being a slave for 11 years he was falsely accused of rape, and thrown into prison for at least 2 years. After being released he was charged with the task of storing up supplies in preparation for a 7 year famine; this took 7 years of his life. At 2 years into the famine he was finally reunited with his family. At the age of 41 his promise from God was finally realized. For those of us doing the math that is a total of 24 years Joseph had to wait for his promise from God.

In 2005 I was sitting in service at a church we had just started attending. We had just a hand full of friends there and no one really knew our personal lives at all. This was just about a year after I had started my small counter top company. I was extremely stressed at the time. My company was still struggling to make payroll each week and, the work was slow to come. Our finances were stressful. About 3/4 the way through the service the pastor stammered and said, “I need to do something real quick if everyone will just have some patience.” He then walked over to me, and whispered into my ear, “Just as Joseph named his son Manasseh because God had caused him to forget all his trouble, so will you forget your troubles.” He then went right back to his preaching and ended the service.

After the service I went up to him and asked what happened. He said that in his 25 years as lead pastor that has only happened to him 5 times. He just knew what he was supposed to say to me even though he really knew nothing about my current situation including the fact that I owned a company.

I assumed at the time I could expect all my financial problems to be resolved in the near future; I was wrong. In fact it got worse, and I cannot say that I have seen this promised realized in my life, yet.

I have chosen to do the same thing Joseph did during his waiting period. He continued to move forward, believing that God would be faithful to complete the promise made. Joseph maintained his faith and continued to uphold his belief system even in the face of massive temptation to deviate.

The obstacles I am facing seem small compared to what Joseph had standing in his way. Still, life’s challenges are relative. Every individual faces different challenges and their difficulty level is very individualized.

In the teaser for this week’s Let’s Blog Off subject, Gerard wrote the following.

Eighteen years ago, The Shawshank Redemption was released that had what I consider the best line ever. “I’ve convinced you to come this far. I’m hoping you’re willing to go just a littler bit further.”

Sunday morning I felt God asked me to do the same thing. I choose to go just a little bit further and continue chasing His promise, no matter how long it takes.

Journal: Dave Ramsey would be proud

In 2008 I was introduced to Dave Ramsey. I listened to every show, via podcast, for two straight years. I pretty much bought into everything he teaches about finances. There is one thing he teaches that I have bought into with every ounce of my being.

Car debt is dumb!

A few months ago I rear ended someone on I-70 here in Kansas City. Since then our [paid for] minivan has been going down hill. With this year’s tax return I made it one of my goals to put away $1,000.00 for a replacement beater car. As the minivan started to get worse I realized it was time to do something. The first thing I did was send out a Facebook status update requesting everyone be on the lookout, and I quickly got a response from my friend Eric.

I called Eric on the phone and found out they had a 2001 Ford Focus they were not using very often. A few days later Eric and Carole brought it by for me to test drive for a few days.

It is obvious they have taken very good care of this car. It runs very well and gets great gas mileage. To top it off they sold it to us for a VERY reasonable price. They could have gotten more for it had they tried Craig’s List or something. They were more interested in helping us than monetary gain; a mark of true friends.

Dave was right, when you start doing smart things with money good things happen.

Thank you Eric and Carole for being such great friends!

Disclaimer: If you have car debt you are not a bad person!

Journal: Crunch Time

I have four weeks [thyroid] to salvage my Anatomy and Physiology [aorta] grade for this semester.

To say this semester started rough [mitral valve] is an understatement. After only two tests [pulmonary artery] and just six weeks I had an overall grade of 62% [thalamus]. This is hardly compatible with admission to a credible nursing [capillaries] program. These science grades are taken very seriously [alveolar ducts]. As I have mentioned in previous entries, I seriously considered dropping this class after the second test [trachea].

I was given new hope after the third exam. I performed surprisingly well [vena cava] scoring an 83%. My reward was an eight point jump [atrial natriuretic peptide] in my overall percentage. I sat down with a co-worker, and we calculated how well I needed to perform for the rest of the semester [ventricle] to score an 80% overall grade for the class. It breaks down as follows.

Total Points Available: 800
Points Needed to Get a B: 640
Max Points Possible At This Time: 490
My Current Points: 350
Remaining Points Available: 310

As you can see [artery] I have quite the hill to climb if I am to achieve my goal of 640 points. I did leave one bit of important [pancreas] information out. The final includes a 50 point [thyroid stimulation hormone] bonus test. This is 25 True/False questions. This gives me a total of 360 actual points [hemoglobin] still available. If I can score 85% or better on these last [CO2] two test and get at least half of the True/False bonus questions correct I will have my “B” for the semester [renin-angiotensin].

My next test is tomorrow [blood pressure] evening. It covers 5 chapters. It is over the endocrine system, blood, heart, blood vessels and lungs. The heart, lungs and blood [lymphocytes] are areas that I have a lot of experience in so I expect to do well on those portions [basophil] of the test. I am not as strong with the endocrine system [diabetes] and the blood vessels [veins]. I studied these areas all weekend and will study them today and tomorrow [pharynx]. I feel that I have an excellent chance of getting an “A” on this test. If I can do that [larynx] then I will be able to take a lot of pressure off of myself for the final and bonus test.

Now, back to my studying!

Dandelion Jelly

Photo Credit: Jennerally

Invasion of Dandelion

April K. Curfman

Blatantly you disregard
Our efforts to exclude you
And pop-up – like stars
Across our yards
In irrespective profusion
Your final act
A child-like gift
Of whimsical illusion
Your courageous grace ignored
You’re labeled
An intrusion.

Yes, it is that time of year again. With a quick ride through any neighborhood here in the Midwest the evidence of spring is upon us. Dandelions are ‘on the rise’. Rather than mowing them down or even worse treating your yard with ‘weed and feed’ let’s take a different route, shall we?

With a taste close to honey this one is sure to be a winner with the kids!

Dandelion Jelly

Wash one quart of dandelion blossoms (no stems).
Put in pan and boil for 3 minutes in one quart of water (mom lets it simmer for a while).
Strain.
Strain again through a coffee filter.
To every three cups of liquid add 1 pkg. sure-jell and1 tsp. lemon or orange extract (mom uses lemon juice).
Add 4 1/2 cups sugar.
Boil 3 minutes (mom says it takes more like 10 minutes) Use jelly setting on candy thermometer or use a glass dish from freezer. If a few drops on the cold dish sets that is an indication that it is done.
Jars need to be hot. Mom puts them in a cake pan of water and heats on stove. She puts parafin in each jar. After it melts she adds the jelly.

You can add any flavor of dry jello to taste or color. (Mom adds about 1 T. of strawberry)

“If dandelions were hard to grow, they would be most welcome on any lawn.” Andrew V. Mason

Ported and edited from my wife’s blog, with permission.

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